relationship Q & A

Today I’m answering the most common questions that I get about my relationship from you!

Q: How did you meet?

A: Dylan was my brother’s friend but I actually met him the first time through one of my friends, he was their neighbor.

Q: How did you know Dylan was the one?

A: I get this question all of the time and I feel like I don’t ever have the answer anyone wants to hear. I feel like most people want a specific moment or a specific trait that I was looking for and a lightbulb went off but that’s not really what happened. My honest answer is I just knew. I feel like that’s just how it is. When I asked myself if I’d be proud to stand by him, the answer was yes. When I asked myself if I trusted him, the answer was yes. When I asked myself if I’d be proud to have a child that was just like him, the answer was yes. I’ve always pictured marrying him. I will say, though, that when he threw a surprise prom for me — I’m talking everyone dressed up, food, lights, music, etc. — I knew I had to marry him😂

Q: Do you guys ever fight? How do you get through it?

A: YES! Everybody fights and yes, we’ve had really stupid fights. We get through it by talking to each other and not ignoring it. You also get through it by knowing that you’re fighting the problem, not each other.

Marriage counseling also taught us how to fight better (that sounds so stupid). Before, when we would fight, yelling was my method and leaving to cool off was Dylan’s method. In marriage counseling, we both learned that we hate the way the other fights, so now I’m working on not yelling, and Dylan’s working on not leaving in the middle of a fight and it actually helps us a lot.

Q: With you working from home and him not working in the winter, don’t you get sick of each other?

A: Sometimes we get annoyed with each other but it’s honestly not very often. We really love spending time together and always have. We’re also super open about the times that we do want to be left alone and we don’t take offense when the other wants to be alone.

Q: How do you get him to take you on dates?

A: I don’t get him to do anything. We both love going out and sometimes I think he loves going on dates more than I do. We both know that it’s important and we both have a lot of fun doing it.

Q: How do you get him to take pictures with you all of the time?

A: This question makes me giggle all the time and this is probably the number one question that I’m asked. Pictures have always been my thing. Ask my friends, when they came over we would dress up and take hundreds and hundreds of pictures. It was my dream to become a photographer and now I am a photographer. Dylan took pictures with me then because he supported my dream and he knew it was important to me, it doesn’t mean that he always liked it though. It wasn’t until after his little brother died and he only had a handful (and I’m not exaggerating, he probably has 5 or 6) of pictures to show for those 20 years that he realized how important it is to take pictures. Stupid pictures, cute pictures, serious pictures, all of the pictures to show that you lived. He doesn’t always love it but he does it because he knows that it’s important and he knows that it makes me happy. He’s also developed quite the eye for photos, sometimes he can be judgier than me😂